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Bright-Side of the Web: Find Your Life’s Purpose in 5 Minutes or Less

medium_5403735381Twenty-five years after graduation, 80% of his financially successful and privileged Yale alumni were unhappy.  Adam Leipzig examined the lives of the remaining 20% to discover what the graduates in the happy group all had in common.

Broken down into 5 simple steps, Adam, a movie producer, distributer and happy person, helps you discover your life’s purpose, in 5 minutes or less: watch his Tedx Presentation here.

What’s Your Life’s Purpose?
Share below.

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Quotes That Make You Go Hmmm…

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“Most of the shadows of this life
are caused by standing in one’s own sunshine.”
—Ralph Waldo Emerson

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Quotes That Make You Go Hmmm…

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My old career was lovely and interesting, 
but I was in it because 

I was being more loyal to my fears
than to my dreams.

Tara Mohr

Can you relate to this statement?  Share your thoughts below. 

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How Far Would You Go?

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Ok Women, how brave are you?

And Men, where do you draw the line?

Women:
Consider this…
 Would you leave the house without donning even the tiniest bit of make-up if…

…you were just going to the corner convenience store to pick-up a late-night carton of milk for the morning cereal?

…you were driving your kids to school and would be dropping them at the curb and heading straight back home?

…you were doing your weekly grocery shopping?

…you were going to the dentist or doctor?

…you were going to work?

…you were going out for a romantic dinner with your mate?

…you were going to the theatre (live theatre, not the movies)?

How brave are you?

And is it bravery or is it confidence?

…or is it self-worth?

Men:
What would your reaction be to seeing your partner without make-up, out in the real world in the given situations above?

And how would you feel if she dressed ‘comfortably’, not sloppy, but in fitted (yet not snug) clothing which did not bare her shoulders or legs and she wore comfortable shoes in which she could walk long distances?

Now, how would you feel if a female co-worker was make-up free and comfortably dressed?

Would you take her more seriously or less so when she spoke to you?

Gender Gap

I have often wondered why women spend so much money on products to conceal, even-out, enhance, disguise and brighten various areas of their faces not to mention the time it takes to sculpt and paint the daily facade while men enjoy the wash-and-go life.

Women do not think men are less handsome because their cheeks aren’t rosy, their skin colour isn’t even and their lips aren’t a particular shade of red.

In fact, quite often we find you men extremely handsome and we feel the need to adorn ourselves more in the hope of getting your attention.

And why in the rest of the natural world are the males the flamboyant ones with vibrant colours and showy displays to attract the female?

I wonder what would happen if women stopped wearing make-up.

I recently read an article by Lauren Shields describing her “modesty experiment” where she challenged the westernized ideal of beauty.  For nine months, she lived entirely without make-up, revealing clothes and uncomfortable shoes.  (Sounds rather freeing, doesn’t it?)

She examined the philosophy of various religion’s reasons for modest dressing and was surprised by what she found in both her research and her experience.

Does a year of living modestly appeal to you?  How far would/could you take it? And what would you expect to learn or gain from the experience?

Share your thoughts below.

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9 Life Lessons I Learned From My Dad

I remember my Dad teaching me how to dive.medium_4784719807

He would stand in the pool while I stood on the side, toes wrapped over the edge.

He would hold out his arm at the height of my thighs and say, “Just lean over my arm and fall in.”

I would stand there, arms straight up over my head, hands clasped tightly, knees knocked together and slightly bent, toes gripping tightly to the side and I would lean over and take deep breath after deep breath, almost hyperventilating, staring into the depths below.

I’d lean over a bit further, gasp some more then straighten up and say, “I can’t.”

He’d reassure me and I’d go through the whole process again, and again, and again, until one day I tipped so far forward that I fell in.

Not only did I survive, I discovered it was fun!  So I scrambled back out, anxious to do it over and over.

I’ve come to see that this was not a one-time occurrence.  This is my pattern.

Whenever I want to try something new, I read about it, observe others, watch videos, dream about it, discuss it, take deep breaths, take classes, read some more, dip my toe in, quickly pull it back, take more deep breaths, repeat all of the above (more than once) then finally gain the courage to dive in head first.

And I have never been sorry.

9 Life Lessons I Learned From My Dad

  1. No matter how many deep breaths you take before you jump, it’s the last breath that keeps you from drowning.  So stop hyperventilating, take one really big breath and dive in.
  2. If you lack the courage, prepare as best you can then lean far enough forward so that your momentum will take you the final step.
  3. Avoid shallow water, that’s for waders, not serious divers.
  4. You will survive (provided you’ve applied step #3).
  5. It will get easier each time you do it.
  6. This is a mental sport and you are your only opponent.
  7. Soon you will want to try from a new height, until that becomes easy.
  8. You will be glad you did it.
  9. You will wonder why you were ever afraid.

Thanks Dad!

Share below when you struggled with the courage to try something and how it turned out. 

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Bright-Side of the Web: The Power of Introverts

Writers, and creative people in general, have a common trait; they tend to be introverts.

Yet western society extols the extrovert, encouraging the ‘quiet’ ones to speak up, partake in group activities, join Toastmasters and put themselves out there.

Susan Cain, an introvert herself, makes a case for the opposite.

In this Bright-Side of the Web, join Susan as she describes The Power of Introverts.

And on behalf of all of us introverts, thanks Susan.  Someone had to spread this message.  I’m just glad it wasn’t me!

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What does “Peace” mean to you?

I believe in the power of positive thinking.  The Secret.  The Law of Attraction. Whatever you want to call it; what you put out to the universe comes back.

“What you think, you become.” Buddha.

Your thoughts; positive or negative, good or bad, productive or un, give things the power to come to fruition in your life.

That is why I read with great interest a recent post about another blogger’s initiative, a rally call really, for like-minded bloggers to join together and blog for a cause.

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Bloggers For Peace.  

#B4Peace

My mind began to wander.

What would happen if many people began to shift their thoughts for this one cause?

Peace.  

Imagine…

There is proof that our hearts emit electro-magnetic waves that can join and be felt around the globe.

Imagine the effect of thousands of people writing about peace and thousands more reading about peace, daily.

Discussions, comments and sharing take place and our electro-magnet waves begin to unite.

This was a movement for which I wanted to be a part.

But I needed to noodle on it for a bit.  What would be my role?  What could I throw in to contribute to the ripple?

So I asked:

What does “Peace” mean to me?

For some, peace means an end to war – in their country, in their streets, in their homes.

For some, peace means freedom from restrictions – slavery, religious persecution, child labour, oppression.

For some, peace means not having to worry about whether their children will eat each day.

Peace is all of those things and more.

What also came to mind was that
peace, if achieved, cannot last without environmental protection.

How long can we survive at the rate of environmental decline currently in existence today – with or without peace?

Therefore, for my contribution to Bloggers For Peace, I have chosen this month to highlight a problem for which we can all contribute toward the solution (since we’ve likely unknowingly contributed to the problem).

The North Pacific Tropical Gyre, a.k.a. The Garbage Patch

Watch, Learn, Absorb, then adopt

 The New 3-R’s: Rethink, Refuse, Reconsider

and the 4th ‘R’

REACT!

According to the National Geographic link below, “Because the Great Pacific Garbage Patch is so far from any country’s coastline, no nation will take responsibility or provide the funding to clean it up.”

Find out more about the Great Pacific Garbage Patch:

More about Bloggers For Peace:
http://everydaygurus.com/2012/12/20/we-can-make-a-difference-right-here-right-now/
Another Blogger for Peace:
http://tracielouisephotography.net/2013/02/08/blogging-for-peace/

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Below, share your reaction to this video.
And share what ‘Peace’ means to you.

How To Keep Your Glass Half-Full

Do you know people who consistently poo-poo any new idea – especially yours? small__5458325252Without even taking the time to consider the nuances, the intricacies, and the brilliance of the thing, they say ‘no’ before the words are barely out of your mouth. Whatever you say, they disagree. You are wrong and they are right.

I know a few people like this.  I call them ‘energy suckers’. No matter how pumped you are, they come along with their energy-zapping vacuum and point it in your direction. They’ll cut down every point you make. Stomp on your enthusiasm. Squash your high until it’s as flat as a pancake; the school-yard bully to your Pollyanna.

Well guess what? You are right (likely – I don’t know what your idea is. If it’s jumping off a cliff without a parachute then I’m pretty sure, in this instance, you are likely wrong).

What I mean is, if you are coming up with ideas: ideas that light you up; ideas that get your creative juices flowing; spontaneous take-life-by-the-wazoo-and-enjoy-it ideas then you are right and they are wrong.

So how do you stay positive against such pessimism? 

This is a difficult question to answer and an even harder one to deploy. In my case, I have learned a few coping skills – long to come by, trial and error methods that seem to work, most of the time.

Method #1

First there’s the SIIYE method, short for ‘Stick-It-In-Your-Ear’. This took some learning, especially difficult for me since I am a do-what-I’m-told-don’t-make-waves kind of person so standing up for my point of view sometimes goes against the grain. This method works most easily if you are sure of yourself and know your idea is going to work. For me though, it’s a silent, to myself ‘Stick It’ to the perpetrator and I go ahead with my plans, without their blessing.  And when it works out, as it often does, proving them wrong is very sweet revenge – an imaginary highest-of-fives.

Method #2

Next there’s the ‘What’s That? I Didn’t Hear You?’ method. Again, be sure of yourself so you don’t get swayed.  Energy suckers sense unsure-ity. With this method, you have to be able to block out what they just said and pretend it never happened but the next step is crucial; you must self-talk yourself back to the top of the pyramid where you felt strong before you shared your thoughts, or quickly find a comrade to boost your moral. Timing is everything here. The quicker the better or their blabber will start to infiltrate your plan and knock you off your feet.

Method #3

Then we have the ‘Misery Loves Company’ method. This is when the dastardly deed-doer has succeeded in doing his dastardly deed and has sucked all the helium out of your balloon. This is where chocolate (lots of it) and a good friend with a sympathetic ear (you may need more than one of these) comes into play. You also need lots and lots of angel-on-your-shoulder self talk to get you back on track. This is vital since the devil on the other shoulder is smirking right about now. You have now been toppled from the tip of your peak and the climb back up seems steeper this time. But take heart, you will reach the summit again – stronger and wiser.

Method #4

Finally we have the ‘What’s Your Problem?’ method.  And this I mean sincerely. Sometimes it helps to try to understand why the person has thrown manure on you. What is happening with them that makes them so negative? Most often, they are jealous of your spirit, your ingenuity, your energy. They are envious of your position, and more importantly, disappointed with their own.  Once you meet them where they are, you may see it’s not about you at all thus allowing you the courage to follow through.  And on your way up to the top, throw some encouragement their way – their glass needs topping up.

Raise Your Shields

Once you’ve made your decision to embark on your own – without their help and assistance – mind your step. They may stick their foot out to trip you now and again. And should you start to crash, securely fasten your oxygen mask by activating the methods above. Learning to raise your shields will break their suction.

If you are sure of your destination, how you get there doesn’t much matter – as long as it’s honest – and

when you arrive is the precise moment you were meant to.

Share how you’ve gone against the cynics in your life and flourished in spite of them. 

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Positive Ponderings: What’s Your Role?

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If all the world’s a stage, 
what’s your role?

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Quotes That Make You Go Hmmm…

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“A wise man pays attention
to what is said
but listens to what goes unsaid.”

~Ryan Steyn

 

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