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A Symbolic Life

Symbols surround us every day. We use them and show them without much thought.

What do the symbols you present say about you? 

Perhaps in this age of texts and tweets and emoticons, symbols are used more than ever before.

We add ‘xo’ and ‘<3’ to the ends of notes to loved ones.

🙂 and 😦 display our emotions which help the reader understand the many non-verbal conversations we have with one another, hoping to ensure that our meaning is not lost in translation.

Are symbols fairly new to us and based on electronic communications?  Many are but in the case of x’s and o’s, these have represented kisses and hugs for generations.

Let’s consider the other symbols that surround us:

Math provides us with a myriad of symbols, both positive or negative. Either adding or multiplying to our experience or negatively deducting from our source.

But what other symbols surround us in our daily existence?

As we age, we develop wrinkles and laugh lines.  Someone meeting us for the first time sees these symbols of experience and make deductions. They start to assess our age and place themselves in relation to us. Are we older, younger, by how much?

One of my favourite lines from the song Happy Baby by Shaye is: “These lines upon my face, I’d be a fool to erase ’cause they show my place in this world.” Yet so many of us, women in particular, are obsessed with hiding our age.  Who are we really trying to deceive?

What about visible scars? Do they symbolize a difficult life?  A serious accident? A birth defect?

Our clothes? Symbols of societal stature?

Cars: Symbols of financial class or moral standing?

Houses: what does the size of our homes symbolize to passersby?

Choice of vacation spots: financial, educational, or a symbol of our stage in life?

The books we read. The movies we watch. Do we play video games or not?

Our lives are full of symbols; symbols that others use to define us and that we use to define ourselves.

As our friend Forrest Gump stated in the video on my post “Life is like a box of chocolates…”, “there’s an awful lot you can tell about a person by their shoes; where they’re going; where they’ve been.” These are images of ourselves that we portray, for the most part, without even realizing it. But you can’t know the whole story until you the know the whole person.

Have you ever thought of the symbols you present to the world? Are they representing the real you?

Enjoy Happy Baby by Shaye – great song, great message, great Canadian group.

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Quotes That Make You Go Hmmm…


“There are moments on the brink,
when you can give yourself to a lover, or not;
give in to self-doubt, uncertainty, and admonishment, or not;
dive into a different culture, or not;
set sail for the unknown, or not;
walk out onto a stage, or not….
Resist then, and…
                                 there is only what might have been.”

Diane Ackerman

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“Life is like a box of chocolates.

You never know what you’re gonna get.” Forrest Gump

Life is full of surprises and twists and turns.  Some wonderful, some not.

You may start off in one direction and end up somewhere quite unexpected.

You may meet someone who changes your trajectory. They may present options to you that you hadn’t considered and venture down an unexplored path. Perhaps a promotion offers a career direction that leads you to further challenges.

Some of these twists and turns may end up being the things you look back on and categorize as ‘mistakes’.  Did you learn anything from your so-called ‘mistake’? If so, then perhaps it should be considered a lesson.  Is it a mistake only if you repeat it?

Reaching into your box of life-chocolate, you pull out your favourite one. Do you gobble it up and reach in again for another or do you savour it slowly trying to make it last?

Do you enjoy being surprised by the selections or are you more the type that prefers to check the map and select your chocolate carefully, considering all the options and leaving the unpleasant ones for last, or for someone else?

Some would say that isn’t living; that life should be experienced as it unfolds.

Some would say that is living with intention; you have a plan, desires, and you intend to see that you reach your goals.

Is one method more right than the other? Is one method more right for you?

You may never know what life will throw your way, but if you make a map, there are less surprises; for better or worse, the choice is yours to make.

Are you a read-the-map person or a take-what-you-get sort?

Clip from Forrest Gump

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Positive Ponderings: Judgement

Is it only books
that you judge
by their covers?

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Happy Grateful Day, Again.

Today marks Thanksgiving for my American neighbours to the south.

As stated in an earlier post, Canadian Thanksgiving happened more than a month ago.  It seems a bit odd that these two virtually equal events would be celebrated at such different times of the year but looking on the Bright-Side, it gives yet another time to stop and ponder for all that we are grateful.

We all lead busy lives, rushing to do what must get done and adding what didn’t onto the list of yet-to-do’s.  Planning for this, accomplishing that, starting the next thing; with head down, nose to the grind-stone, forging ahead.

It is nice to be able to stop and reflect on all the good in our lives, even if we have to be told to do it.  And with Thanksgiving as a national holiday, the collective stopping is refreshing and enlivening.

So whether or not you are officially celebrating Thanksgiving today, take at least a moment out of your day and make a mental list of all the blessings in your life. You may be surprised at the length of your list.

Happy November 22nd, Everyone!
I am thankful you stopped by.

What are you thankful for today?

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How Well Do You Treat Your Best Friend?

We often focus on tending to the needs of others: our children, our spouse, our parents, our boss, our clients, our friends, our acquaintances, the cashier, the waiter.

We think about past conversations and how we could have said things differently.

We obsess about the one thing we wish we didn’t say in the heat of anger.

We read book after book on how to nurture our children so they grow up to be caring, productive individuals of society.

But we often forget to foster a relationship with the one person who will always be with us, through thick and thin, for better or worse – ourselves.

Who else gets up in the morning and faces all that you face?

Who else reacts exactly the way you do?

Who else is there for you every moment of every day, ready or not?

Who else knows your deepest and darkest secrets and consistently stands by you?

The answer: No-one else.  Just you. The ole Me, Myself and I.

Each and every one of us has this special person in our lives.

The one constant person who is with you from the moment you are born to the moment you die. 

So, what is your relationship with yourself?

Do you treat yourself well? I don’t mean do you treat yourself to gifts, although that’s important too – sometimes, to a certain degree.  I mean do you treat yourself with respect, kindness and forgiveness?

If you wanted to set yourself up for a date with the friend of a friend, how would you describe yourself to the friend’s friend? What words would you use?

What words do you tell yourself when a conversation doesn’t go as smoothly as you had hoped? Be careful. Words can hurt so speak gently.

What are the nicknames that you call yourself?  Are they endearing or demeaning?

Who do you see when you look in the mirror? Friend or Foe?

Do you like yourself?

You are going to be with yourself for quite some time so if things aren’t going well, now is the time to change all that.

Go easy on yourself. You’re only human.

Don’t beat yourself up if you screw up – and you will undoubtedly screw up from time to time, likely many times. Everyone does. Instead, learn from your mistakes and pledge to do better the next time.

Be your own best-friend; the kind of friend you are to others.

The better the relationship you have with yourself, the less you will stress over the relationships you have with others because being you, knowing yourself, and doing your best, is all people can expect of you and all that you can expect of yourself.

In your quest to be your own best friend, the first thing on your to-do list should be to give yourself an AWESOME nickname because when you’ve said something stupid to the cute guy you’ve been hoping for months to meet, instead of saying to yourself “Nice one, Dummy.”, wouldn’t “You are one unpredictable gal, Stellar Cosmic Chicana!” feel so much better?

What AWESOME nickname are you going to give yourself?  
Share it below. 

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Positive Ponderings: Excess

What is one excess that you currently have but could live without?

If you gave it up, would you really miss it?

Is it worth trying to live without it now?

What Is Your Chocolate?

Chocolate covered almonds. Chocolate covered raisins. Chocolate covered peanuts. Chocolate covered chocolate.

Chocolate = Happiness. 

Chocolate = Satisfaction.

Chocolate is not only soothing and comforting, it can be used as an analogy to life’s pleasures.

A smile on the faces of family members, a hearty straight-from-the-depths-of-your-gut laugh, a hug precisely when needed, a baby’s cooing, dancing with abandon, someone to talk to when you need to vent, helping someone, making a difference in someone’s life or in the world are all examples of “life-chocolate”.

Enriching, satiating, elevating.

Basic food, water, safety and shelter are the meat and potatoes; the main course. The sustenance you need to survive; the means to keep you going to the next day.

But chocolate, ah! That is what makes life…well, life.

The sweetness that makes the drudgery bearable.

Without chocolate, there would be nothing to look forward to at the end of the ‘must do’.  No special treat with which to reward yourself.

Some of us have chocolate all around us but can’t see it. They live in the ‘hot/cold’ game.  They get close to it but walk right past it.  If no-one says “You’re getting warmer”, they don’t take notice or the time to seek it out.

Maybe that is why an Easter egg hunt is so much fun.

My chocolate may be your pie, or ice-cream, or cheesecake. The medium can change, the meaning remains.

Start filling your basket with all the chocolate you can find.  Just the act of starting to look means you are getting warmer.  And if you look around and realise that you are ‘burning hot’, get a bigger basket, then share it with your friends.

What is your chocolate?  Where did you find it?

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Positive Ponderings: Six Word Positive Memoir

Have you heard of the ‘six word memoir‘?

The idea is to describe your life using only six words.

I would like to put a twist on that.  A Pollyanna twist.

Using six words, write about something positive in your life.

Here’s mine:

Love, laughter, family, friends; lucky girl.

What’s yours?

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30-Day Challenge: Day 5

How is your 30-Day Challenge going? Did you make it through the weekend? Don’t be discouraged if you didn’t.  Stick with it and ignore the slip-up. You can add a day to the end if you like. 

So far, I’ve managed to keep bread at bay and it has not been as difficult as I had feared. I’ve had soup with salad a couple of times and eggs with no toast. The tricky thing for me is just keeping it at the front of my mind and not unconsciously making a sandwich out of habit. 

Well, 4 days down, 26 to go!  

How is your challenge going? (Don’t forget to share your 6-word positive memoir)

Bright-Side of the Web: Derek Sivers

What makes a leader?

Who makes the leader into the leader?

What is the role of the follower?

Derek Sivers explains perfectly in a humorous 3 minute presentation: How to start a movement

Share your thoughts below.

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